And how do we do that you ask? Simple, get your finger out of your ear and listen up. Now the rules may be different for guys and girls so we've separated the related points to reflect the differences between the sexes. Okay class we're back in session and I'll, once again, be your teacher for this week's lesson. Alright, alright enough moaning…

Okay, let's start off simple. Use your brain.
Men:
I know this is a tough one for you guys but it is important that you remember certain things about your date. Women have memories like elephants and they find it important to a certain extent that you remember the little things, like her last name for example. Take note of the little things, yes you can actually take notes if you have to, try to remember things like the music she likes, the date you met, and more importantly not to confuse things you've done with other women with things you've done with her…yeah, that can be bad.

Women:
Try not to remember everything…understand that men aren't the brightest bulbs on the tree. We probably aren't going to remember what you wore on our third date two years ago. Asking your man for facts like these will more than likely end up with an answer you don't like. This doesn't mean we don't care, we are just more focused on what's going on right now (guys you can use that). We know you're better at remembering all the little things and you can use it as ammo in fights, but I think the important this is to try and avoid these little confrontations.

Honesty
Men:
We all know this is the best policy, but for some reason lying comes naturally to us. Even as children we'd lie constantly.
"Did you kick your sister?"
"No"
"Your shoe is still stuck in her ass."
"She sat on it…?"
We don't want to lie, it just happens naturally for us. Well try to stop it. Go by this rule if you need to. She is smarter than you…she will find out. Tell the truth the first time and it won't hurt as much. Not to mention if she can't trust you she won't want to be with you.

Women:
Well, really you can lie all you want. Guys are way to slow on the up take. Chances are we won't find out at all. There is no way that a guy would suspect his girlfriend of lying. But still it is better if you don't…unless your telling us that we're great in bed, then you can lie all you want.

Availability:
This one kinda works for both sexes. Although you want to be there for them when times are tough, you don't have to be there at the drop of a hat…or bra. If you are always sitting by the phone ready to get together at a minute's notice the challenge is gone from it. Make sure they know that your time is valuable and that they aren't the only person in the world. You don't have to be mean about it, just make them think you are busy. If they want to see you on Saturday they had better make plans with you by Thursday or they may be out of luck, even if you are totally available.

In the Bedroom
Men:
Just because your double-loop tongue swirl worked on Girl X doesn't mean it's going to make Girl Y scream with delight. Remember the key to being good in the sack is being open to new things and paying attention to your lover's signals. Don't be selfish in bed, you'll get yours, as long as you remember it's better to give than receive…I think that's how it goes…?

Women:
Okay so you're with a new guy, and you want to see if he's got the goods. Well don't just sit there like a deer in headlights, help the boy out. You've got to do your part as well. Nothing is more of a turn off for a guy than a woman who lies there like a starfish. Get in there and so him what you got. A little work goes a long way in impressing a man.

Keep it to yourself
Another one that spans the sexes is keeping your own time intact. You've got to keep that time with your friends or your hobbies or your geekness. Whatever turns your crank, but you need that down time away from each other to keep the time together interesting. Go out with your friends or geek out in front of that computer or get a hobby. Men usually don't have a hard time with this one. It's remembering to schedule time for the girlfriend that is sometimes the challenge…remember your trying to hold on to this one idiot. Women, your new man does not qualify as a hobby. Planning your future together is not a hobby…and for god sake's don't tell him all about the house and 2.4 kids you want to have, save that until you've got him totally whipped and to scared to leave the house. For now, go out on the dates and keep up on your social life.

This is not the end all be all of relationships but it's a good start to taking your dating to the next step. There are a lot of different ways to impress your partner…and no showing them your Star Wars collection isn't one of them. Pay attention to your partner's wants and desires and who knows what can be around the corner for you two lovebirds…I'm outta here, it's getting way to mushy.

What do you think? You know where to find me.

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