In the past in this column I have stayed away from any talk of love or relationships. That is because I am in love with someone and wanted to protect her privacy and rights, however I thought I would share something that happened recently for all of you.
It was recently my girlfriends birthday, now guys, here is a perfect example to score some points as my roommate the stud always says. I don't think it's about scoring points, but making that day so special for someone you care about. The problem is for most of you lazy channel clickers out there is how to go about doing this, well it's time to meet another side of Downs.
The Gift.
This is the most important part of any birthday, Christmas, or any other celebration. Guys you have to get your woman a gift that she wants, no loves. If you walk in with a deep fryer and she is expecting a new dress you're fucked. No matter what, as polite as she will be, you will have hurt her feelings. You idiot. Buying gifts isn't hard folks; all it takes is listening to your partner and understanding what she wants. I tend to be a bit of an over the top gift buyer, I try to find something she really wants but wont get for herself. This I think is satisfying for both of you, and face it guys if you don't enjoy buying a gift for your lover then maybe she is not the one for you. The other thing is that this helps you out in the end also, if you are buying her things she loves, she will buy you the things you love. Gone will be the days of the socket set and tie for Christmas.
The Setting.
As a man, in a relationship it is your responsibility and duty to make your lover's birthday a romantic event. I can hear some of you groaning already. Again this is pretty simple, with a little thought and planning you will have her whipping off those panties and jumping you in thanks in no time. Let me show you how I go about setting up my evening. Firstly I take off work a little early and get home. Now maybe you are going to a restaurant or something, doesn't matter I decided this time to cook dinner. Guys if there is one thing I can pass on it's learn how to cook. You won't have to do it all the time, but when you do it, it will be greatly appreciated. Now I had spent a bit of time thinking about what to cook. I had listened to her the days leading up to the big event and knew she was craving pasta. I found a recipe that had some inside meaning to her off of allrecipes.com and was off. Sure I had to ask a few questions here and there of a coworker but I still made it with my two hands. And believe me guys when she walks in to the house smelling all good and you standing there it will be worth it.
The next thing I did was flowers. Simple huh? You would think so, however
there is more to buying flowers than meets the eye. We've all seen the
movies where the woman opens the box of a dozen roses and immediately
goes down on the guy, but that doesn't really happen in real life. My
lover for instance doesn't really care for roses, and it's my job to know
that, AND to know what she does like. Daisies. Stop off on your way home
and buy some, it will make a difference.
Candles, one word that can impact your life substantially. I am an admitted candle fan; I find them very soothing and tend to have a couple going all the time. So to make this night special I had to pull out the stops, I put 25 long candles all around my living room. I would have liked to have maybe a 100, but that just wasn't feasible in my living room. You don't have to go all out like this, but think about the effort here guys; an hour setting up candles is a small price to pay for all she gives you.
So there you are, waiting for her to come home, dinner is ready, flowers are arranged, candles are lit, and you have her gift in hand. Believe me, no matter how crappy her day was, she would relish the fact that you put so much effort into something that was for her not you.
Next I would plan some activities that the two of you enjoy doing together, whether it be singing to sick children, shooting mice or watching The Osborne's. Sit back, listen to her, and shower her with affection after all it is her day.
And there you have it, a few simple pointers from the guy you least expected it to come from.
SO SAYETH THE SHEPERD
Downs
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