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Shane
out with other girls and saying it was "Just friends" I was and am perfectly happying going out with guys and having fun. You are right on the mark
when you say we act differently, even at work, when I work with a guy we talk about women and have fun, but when I work with a woman, I have to holdback
on any of that..)Our relationship finally came to an end when she told me her and her "friend" Dave had watched a movie at his house until 6am. A little longer story than that but when she said all they did was just watch movies and
got off at 6am - I ended things right away.During the course of our "on and off" again relationship (that lasted about 18 months) I told her a few times that she coudn't have any guy friends.
She kept calling me the jealous type, saying I shoudn't worry about the other guys, blah blah.. so I tried to play it cool but then I always ended up saying something and said she didn't need guy friends, she said she did,called her an attention whore one time, lots of arguing, so..
Anyway to make a long story
short I could never really prove that she
was cheating, but all the signs pointed to that she was. She went to clubs
with guys, to their houses until 6am, blamed it on "just friends"
and "just talking" and said it meant nothing, if I said it meant
nothing then she didn't need other boy "friends" on the side,
you get the idea ;)
I guess the reason I'm writing
this is, because I still feel like there is piece of me missing that needs
to be healed. It's been a while now and
she's made several attempts go get back together - the last time being
around
october of last year. She said she would give up the other guys
completely even though she didn't understand they were just friends, she
wanted to
meet up and talk about things, but I ignored her completely. (She sent
emails- to the point I had to close my account and start a new one that
she didn't know about, she left messages, she harassed one of my online
friends trying to get my contact information, and finally she came to
my house in the middle of the night and left a letter on my car saying
she was in an accident and when her life flashed by she could only think
of me.)
Even though it's been a while now, every now and then I still miss her.But I know, I can never go back to that. I don't want to go back to that, always wondering what guy she's out with, or what new guys she is becoming "friends" with, I just don't need that kind of stress in my life. Maybe I admit I do get a little jealous at times, when she said something like he liked her, but she didn't like him, so they would be just friends. (So I know that he does see her like that.)
I was curious if you have any advice on getting over someone, even this late in the game? I haven't met any new women since her, and now I'm beginning to think maybe it's time to get back out there again, I feel like a stone-aged creature with no experience after all this time though. And I still think of my ex, whom I think about and miss.
Any ideas on what I should do? I'd love to get on with my life, and forget her all together.. but the last time we saw eachother in person was 11 months, 14 days, and 8 hours ago! (j/k) The last time we did see eachother was in march of last year. (03) I would think after all this time.. I should have forgotten her? Or at least if not forgotten her, stopped thinking of her and missing her? Maybe it's the fact that I could never prove she was cheating, or I could never proveanything about these other guys, is that is keeping me from moving on?Well I don't want to turn this into a book, but thanks for the article..and any other advice you might have.
Take care,
Shane
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