Speaking of the second date, like I said in our last class that is the ultimate goal of the first date. So what can you do to impress your newfound chicky-poo? Forget flashing the expensive car and the fat wallet, sure these things don’t hurt…women seem to like the money (it says something about your ability to be successful and confident) ultimately it’s going to be your personality that wins it in the end. At least that is what us geeks tell ourselves. Number one thing, be yourself. Don’t try to be some other schmuck that you think she’s going to like, she went out with you so she would probably like to spend the time with you.

This brings us to conversation. I’m not going to tell you what you should talk about with this girl…she’s your date I’m going to assume you know her…at least a bit. However I would like to extend a cautionary note towards things you might not want to say. First off, don’t talk about yourself all night…you aren’t that interesting. I know it’s an old cliché but find out about her. Okay here are a few things that you should already know not to say but I’m going to assume that because you are here you might be a bit fuzzy on them.

Don’t use cheesy pick up lines during the date to compliment her. You already have her out on the date…you can stop now. It just makes her feel icky and you look dumb.
Don’t make any references to your penis. Unless she asks she doesn’t want to hear that you named it Gumby or that you have a boner cause you’re so excited to be on the date with her…that really isn’t a compliment, it’s bordering on assault…creep.
Don’t make talk about other women you’ve dated…in fact don’t even talk about other girls unless it’s family and even then keep it brief.
Don’t make sexual comment about how they drink from a bottle or open their mouth to eat a sandwich
Don’t stare at her chest the whole time…I know it’s not a conversation thing, but if you continue it the conversation will end quick and you’ll never get to see them outside of that outfit.
Don’t bother asking her to come back to your place if you have done any of the above

A good rule of thumb to follow when dating is to end the date before too long. If you hang out with her until she can’t stand the sight of you, you ain’t getting another round. I would suggest taking her home after you have completed the original plans of the date. If you went out for dinner, take your time and enjoy your dinner, but once the dinner is over bring her home. It’s like the stage saying ‘always leave them wanting more’. Now Ted, this refers to the date, not sex. Now, if she invites you in for a drink, this is a good sign. Sure, go in. Enjoy the drink and conversation but know when to leave.

Assuming you don’t get invited in this is the part of the date that can be the hardest for some people. The kiss good night. This is never an easy thing, I’m not going to pretend it is, but if you act with confidence it should work out okay. Just think of it as customary and that you must do it to end the date. Try it right after the “I had a great time tonight” and before she walks in her door. The best thing to do at the end of a date is to walk her up to her door. This give a good opportunity for a kiss and it looks good. C’mon people it’s not that hard, they do it movies all the time. Jim, why are you writing so much? …and why are you using crayon?

Oh jeez, I almost forgot. You need to set up future plans during the first date. It’s a good gauge of how you did by the response you get to this inquiry. If she laughs in your face and walks away…don’t wait for her call. Try a simple, ‘can I call you again?’ Who knows you might actually hit it off. Okay guys, that’s all the time we have for this week. Good luck and don’t forget to relax and be yourself.

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