What to do?
Doc,
I honestly need your help. I am 15 years old and have an extremely close emotional friendship with a gorgeous girl. I like her ALOT and have told her that you know "I love you as much as possible as a friend, and the other love is pretty high too." We tell each other that we love each other all the time, but I'm not sure if she digs me, we have done some pretty emotional stuff recently, and I wanna know doc how do I get her. This chick is a hole in one and has written me some flattering notes. I have never felt this way before about anyone; she is the most beautiful thing ever. She has a nice rack too. We have a dance that I'm taking her to soon, but that doesn't matter. I really need your help doc, if you can gimme some advice on how to make this into a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Thanks a bunch.
Murph
Murph,
So you're 15 years old and you want to hit it.
Why put the disclaimer in that you're 15. Is hitting it when you're 15 any different than when you are 20?
I don't think so.
The ladies still deserve to be treated with respect and they are still vulnerable to all the trade secrets of hitting it ™
I will aid you in your quest for the Holy Grail, but you must promise me something. Run out and purchase my latest book, 'The art of hitting it'. Available at all fine bookshops near and far, I think you will find Chapter 7.5, 'Hitting it when your 15 years old and she probably only likes you as a friend', the most use to you.
And apparently she has a hot body - well, good for her, that is not getting you any closer to it. I hope the fact that you have to ask a nameless, faceless pseudo-Doctor for advice doesn't get in the way. A nice rack?! Who uses that term? Last time I checked the world uses 15-17 year olds as a gauge for what is 'in'. Apparently you are not.
So, unfortunately for you - I think that the mountain you have to climb is attempting to morph the relationship into a boyfriend/girlfriend one. This is not an easy chore at any age and even more difficult at your age. You are going to have to convince her to change her idea of you from a friend she likes hanging out with to someone she would consider having sex with. That distinction, most of the time, is made during her initial meetings with you. It is, 'do I like this guy as a buddy only or do I like this guy as a buddy and could possibly see myself sleeping with him'. At 15 years old, she probably has guys knocking on her door constantly, so yours is an uphill battle.Be cool, not just a friend, add some mystery. Build an image that she finds more than just passingly interesting or fun. There is no recipe for being cool. But if you can achieve this feat, you're in. If she thinks you're a cool person, she is yours. Whether that means, funny, interesting, smart, nice dresser, good style, mysterious, whatever…. You should be able to figure out what she wants. At the end of the day, women want different things. Figuring out what she wants is the hard part. And being something other than you is the even harder part. Try not to front too much, that, she will notice. Become what she wants and you'll get what you want. I have to call you on this one - "I love you as much as possible as a friend, and the other love is pretty high too". What kind of idiotic thing is that to say?! Show some confidence, don't be a spineless weasle, 'yeah, you know, I kinda like, kinda,, ummm love you.' It you feel the need to just tell her, at least tell her like you mean it and you can offer her something, not just a little warm feeling of happiness she can get that at the mall.
If you are telling her you love her, and she is you - you've probably gone too far down that road to ever come back. There has to some sort of conquest in the relationship, if she knows she can have you at any time, there is not reason for her to try for you. Her mind set is, 'I can have Murph at any time, but who is that guy in the corner who kind of ignores me, he is interesting.' Good luck buddy - best advice I have is make her jealous, show her that you are a datable guy by dating someone else. That will work wonders in you quest to score the hottie.
Dr. Know, who is sick and tired of giving advice about picking up chicks.Do you really think that I'd be writing for a website, even one as groundbreaking as BoldOpinion.com if I actually could pick up chicks?
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