My husband works hard to make sure that I'm fully pleasured, (I known I'm blessed), but it drives me crazy, he cums way after I have already, but the problem is that I don't liked to be touched after I have cum, it's way to sensitive and he does not get it even after I have told him over and over.whats wrong with me?? Why is one time enough?? Most people love to be got off more then once, I cant stand it once is enough for me. I don't like to be touched after that.

Keykat

Keykat,

I took the liberty of cleaning up your spelling and grammar as much as I could while still retaining the desperateness of your message. It was a tough job, probably because you were in the midst of orgasm when writing.

You have an interesting problem, much different than what I hear from most women. Contrary to your problem most women have a hard time reaching orgasm at all. Can you believe that? I have a friend and she took me into confidence a while back and let me know that she had NEVER had an orgasm. This was when she was 24 or 25 years old and very sexually active. I was blown away, so I talked to her and explained my thoughts. As it happens later she did reach orgasm and I'm quite sure that my little pep talk had something to do with it. So do not fret, we'll get you having multiple orgasms soon.

There are two ways to go about solving your problem. You husband must orgasm quicker so to reach simultaneous orgasms OR you need to learn to control your orgasms to achieve multiple ones. It is obvious that you are looking for the second method, the ever elusive multiple orgasms. No problem.

First things first, THE MIND IS THE MOST POWERFUL SEXUAL ORGAN, you must understand this. Being sexually excited is controllable and the level of orgasm can also be influenced by your mind. Now you may be anxious and concentrating too much on having the incident occur. This may create the buildup of orgasmic energy quickly and the release occur quicker that expected. You have control over this and you should practice this control. There is nothing else to say but practice, practice, and practice. Below are some methods and things to consider while working towards your goal.

Both women and men have different strength levels of orgasm, have you experienced this before? Do all of your orgasms feel exactly the same? Were you or are you a masturbator? Do you understand your body completely? There are many different ways to achieve orgasm, not only though direct stimulation of the clitoris. Which is one of the quicker ways for a womanto acheive orgasm. Although the clitoris is also very, very sensitive.

There may be a prescribed route that your husband is using to help you achieve orgasm. This may be focusing on the clitoris. If you achieve an orgasm by focusing on the clitoris you will agitate it and if not treated like the sensitive little fellow it is it will run back and hide after and continue be extremely sensitive to the touch. Over-stimulation of the clitoris is NEVER suggested. There are many other ways of acheiveing orgasm. I suggest you search for these other ways yourself and then coach your husband through them. These orgasms will be different but just as good, they can be a precursor for the lead into the orgasm that makes it impossible to be touch after. The first in your series.

Find your sex muscle and exercise it like you would any other muscle. This will give you more control over your sexual response and orgasm peaks and valleys. The PC muscles - The standard way to find your PC muscle is to stop and start as you urinate. Do this several times. Women need to keep the legs open wide so that the muscles in the buttocks don't add confusing signals. Another way is to pretend to hold back a bowel movement and tighten anal muscles or you can try the direct approach. Insert a well-lubricated (use vegetable oil) finger into the anus and squeeze. You will feel the anal muscles as well as the PC muscle. Women can gently place their index finger or middle finger in the vagina and squeeze. The vagina will grasp the finger, perhaps quite firmly. It may even push them out. The PC muscle itself can be felt in the vagina as a ribbed muscle about one and a half inches in. Flexing and holding for periods of times can be done anywhere, at work if you choose. I recommend 300 squeezes a day to help get this muscle into shape. The longer you work at it you will be able to hold this muscle flexed for longer period of times.

At the end of the day you should consider yourself lucky, recall the friend of mine that couldn't orgasm. Keep working at it and you will achieve your dreams of multiple orgasms. Above all tell your husband about this (he must know already) but tell him that you truly want to conquer this multiple orgasm thing and he can aid you by changing the way he goes about doing things. You could play through it and take the pain, let your husband cum first by driving him crazy, change the method or pattern of love-makin' you two are in, stopping oral sex. Or go cheat on your husband with another women and another guy…(I'm just trying to get the threesome action going on somewhere).

Know yourself and your naughty bits, I'd like to.

Dr. Know

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