The first date has got be one of the most harrowing experiences of social interaction between human beings. I mean for me personally I can think of a hundred other things I would rather do than have to go through an anxiety filled evening known as the "first date." Cleaning the bathroom comes to mind or being prepared as the main course for a banquet of ravenous cannibals. But you have to do it. If you want to fulfill your quest (if you have such a quest) in finding that special someone to spend your life with you're going to have that "first date." Sometimes you're surprised. Despite all of the horrible scenarios you imagine before you ring that doorbell the evening goes fantastically well. Fireworks go off! You're enthralled by the countless hours of scintillating conversation and wish the night would never end. Of course sometimes your initial fears can come true as well. Endless instances of the most uncomfortable of silences that seem to span decades. Discovering the napkin sitting on your lap has more interesting qualities than the individual sitting across from you. In either case however, the date still must come to a close. In the first scenario, the logical conclusion is pretty simple. "Would you like to go out again sometime?" To which her response is a resounding "yes!" she jumps into your arms and you spin around in circles laughing with pure unmitigated joy at the new love you've found. The second scenario is a bit more difficult. You may have had the worst possible first date known to man. She may have called her ex-boyfriend right in the middle of dinner or asked you if you could loan her a fifty bucks until payday. What are your parting words? Actually here's an even worse scenario. What if your date wasn't obnoxious at all? What if you had a pleasant time but you realize to yourself that you really don't want to venture on a second date? So when you walk out onto the street you have to find the find the proper words to effectively communicate that there will not be another date? I'll tell you what you say. You're going to utter those famous words that thousands of people say at the end of a date all across the planet.
"I'll give you a call sometime."
What does this sentence mean? Never has a collection of words in one sentence created such mystery. The "I'll give you a call sometime" line already has a reputation as being the death knell for many a first date, translating, as "I wouldn't wait by the phone if I were you." But if you thought the date went quite well this could also mean "Wait by your phone, I'm going to call you." Of course the person that is anxiously anticipating "the call" and never does because they misinterpreted the message could be emotionally disappointed. That's no good. There has to be a better way.
I've been trying think of a solution to this problem and have come up completely dry. People might try and tell you to just be honest. Be honest?! Oh yeah that's a great idea. "I've had a remarkably uneventful evening and would rather not see you ever again. Good night." Or instead how about quickly shaking hands and immediately sprinting away in the opposite direction. I would sooner do that, than have to be honest. Lets face facts. There is no comfortable way you can tell another person that you have no interest in seeing them again without causing some possible emotional distress. I've come to terms with the fact that there is no easy solution. This is just one of the many dark sides of the world of dating. Now if you'll excuse me I have to check my call display, I met a Brazilian swimsuit model a few weeks ago that said she'd give me a call sometime. Keep your fingers crossed, this could be the one!
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