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Now I'm not here to burst everyone's balloon of hope, I'm sure there are people that fit together quite nicely. Well if there wasn't I would have to assume that there wouldn't be any weddings. My question is this: Isn't it more likely that there are a number of people that you could commit to rather than just one soul mate? Let me extrapolate. A soul mate would have to mean that there is one person for you, one person that is absolutely perfect for you on a planet of billions. One person on that planet of billions, who just so happens to live in your town…hmmm let me get out my calculator to figure out the probability…uhm no. Now let's see the other option. You are surrounded by potential suitors not all of which are suitable for you but there are some. They might not be completely suited just for you but out of all of the people you've dated this latest beau seems to fit a majority of your wants and needs and treats you with respect and love. There are things about them that drive you up the wall, but a lot less than most people. You agree on the big issues and have the patience to work through the others. Sounds like a catch to me…it also sounds like a lot of round pegs would fit into that square hole you have there. So is this person a soul mate or just someone who doesn't piss you off as much as the other jerks? Perhaps I'm being a bit melodramatic about the whole thing but I'm trying to prove the opposites. Maybe we could compromise and say that you have a lot of potential soul mates instead of just one. It's not as romantic but it is more probable.

I mentioned earlier about having your petrifying fear of commitment broken like some magic spell in a Disney tale by a Prince Charming. Perhaps you're dating people or picking people up at the bar and getting some action but anything further than that and it's system shutdown. Sound familiar? Here's a question for ya: How are you going to know that you've met this Knight in shining khakis if you don't give him more than one date? You are not going to be able to move on from whatever is stopping you from just window-shopping for a new man if you don't get out there and try a few things on. Rome was not built in a day and you can't make butter with a toothpick…oh no, wait that last one was a euphemism for small penises. Anyway, you can't expect to know whether you've met a guy who fits the bill (see soul mate above) in just a couple of dates. I'm not saying that you have to see if every dud out there is a diamond in the rough, we can tell very quickly if the guy slurping his spaghetti across from you isn't going to live up to expectations.

If you are still experiencing a crippling fear of commitment than perhaps this one just isn't right for you. But at least you gave it a shot. Or maybe you still have some sewing of oats to do…sewing is always fun. However, once again I'd like to mention that advice you get for the most part is just opinion based on that person's experiences. Only you will ultimately know what is good for you, follow your gut feeling and you should be able to figure out any problem.

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