Is There a Mr. Right?

Anyway, back to my point, can we count on our fears of commitment magically disappearing the minute we meet so-called Mr. Right? Well hopefully in my case it's a Ms. Right…or at least a Ms. I'llgiveyouthetimeofday. Should we stay hidden in our shells not willing to come out for fear of meeting the wrong person? Is there such a thing as a soul mate? Can we count on our initial instincts to be able to decipher 'the one' from just another break-up waiting to happen? Why am I reading what this idiot has to say? All good questions…I'm sure we've asked ourselves these at one time or another. Where do we find the answers for these questions? Unfortunately we usually go to our friends and let me tell you, unless your friend is Dr. Phil I doubt you are getting the right answers. In fact I don't think there are right answers to most of these questions, just opinions. If you talk to a friend of yours they are going to tell you what they know from their experiences, some advice might be good some might be down right awful. You really need to ask the person involved…yourself. It might sound cheesy to say but deep down you know what feels right for you and what you should do in almost all situations. For example: if you think that soul mates truly exist then you will search until you find yours…or die unhappy. Kidding, I make jokes. But I'm getting off track here, like I said in love it is all a matter of opinion and if you're looking for an opinion Sugarbob, you came to the right place.

When it comes to love at first sight there are only two sides, those who don't believe in it and those who are wrong. I'm sorry but if you try to tell me that you know from looking at a person once that you are in love, I would have to say that you have love and lust confused Mister. There is no way that you know the first thing about this person just because you think they're hot. If that were the case you'd be falling in love everyday. I know that people can have a certain type and you like to think that you know what someone is like by watching them interact with other humans but c'mon Jerry, we know it's just that you think she has a great rack and you'd love to see her naked. When you hear people say that they fell in love at first sight, it's probably a case of two people thinking the other is hot and then after getting to know them, realizing that they were made for you. Humans have a way of fitting memories to be what they want.

Speaking of someone being 'made' for you, is this possible? Are we born destined to find that one person that was genetically and socially designed to fit our every need? A soul mate if you will. I doubt it, sister.

I mentioned earlier about having your petrifying fear of commitment broken like some magic spell in a Disney tale by a Prince Charming. Perhaps you're dating people or picking people up at the bar and getting some action but anything further than that and it's system shutdown. Sound familiar?

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	Is There a Mr. Right?
	Is There a Mr. Right?
		Recently I was having a conversation with a friend about relationships and her apparent lack of commitability…I like to make up words. Although I do believe that we all go through a stage of complete fear of commitment, most of us get over it at some point. Whether it's that we've sewn all of our wild oats and we're tired of the game or it's that we've found that special someone that we want to spend the rest of our lives with…or at least the average 4-years that marriages last now. It seems to be different for everyone. Usually for guys it's when their girlfriend tells them that it's time to settle down or else. One of the questions that always comes up is how do I know if he/she is the one? I have no answer for that one, the only people with the ability to answer that one seem to be those people who have been married for years and years and are totally happy. They always answer with that obligatory 'you just know' crap. It makes you wonder whether they really knew or if it's just a case of perfect hindsight. Anyway, back to my point, can we count on our fears of commitment magically disappearing the minute we meet so-called Mr. Right? Well hopefully in my case it's a Ms. Right…or at least a Ms. I'llgiveyouthetimeofday. Should we stay hidden in our shells not willing to come out for fear of meeting the wrong person? Is there such a thing as a soul mate? Can we count on our initial instincts to be able to decipher 'the one' from just another break-up waiting to happen? Why am I reading what this idiot has to say? All good questions…I'm sure we've asked ourselves these at one time or another. Where do we find the answers for these questions? Unfortunately we usually go to our friends and let me tell you, unless your friend is Dr. Phil I doubt you are getting the right answers. In fact I don't think there are right answers to most of these questions, just opinions. If you talk to a friend of yours they are going to tell you what they know from their experiences, some advice might be good some might be down right awful. You really need to ask the person involved…yourself. It might sound cheesy to say but deep down you know what feels right for you and what you should do in almost all situations. For example: if you think that soul mates truly exist then you will search until you find yours…or die unhappy. Kidding, I make jokes. But I'm getting off track here, like I said in love it is all a matter of opinion and if you're looking for an opinion Sugarbob, you came to the right place. When it comes to love at first sight there are only two sides, those who don't believe in it and those who are wrong. I'm sorry but if you try to tell me that you know from looking at a person once that you are in love, I would have to say that you have love and lust confused Mister. There is no way that you know the first thing about this person just because you think they're hot. If that were the case you'd be falling in love everyday. I know that people can have a certain type and you like to think that you know what someone is like by watching them interact with other humans but c'mon Jerry, we know it's just that you think she has a great rack and you'd love to see her naked. When you hear people say that they fell in love at first sight, it's probably a case of two people thinking the other is hot and then after getting to know them, realizing that they were made for you. Humans have a way of fitting memories to be what they want. Speaking of someone being 'made' for you, is this possible? Are we born destined to find that one person that was genetically and socially designed to fit our every need? A soul mate if you will. I doubt it, sister. To be continued… Next week on...the Article I mentioned earlier about having your petrifying fear of commitment broken like some magic spell in a Disney tale by a Prince Charming. Perhaps you're dating people or picking people up at the bar and getting some action but anything further than that and it's system shutdown. Sound familiar? Send this article to a friend...make them nauseous You got something to say about this article? Say it Here! or mail to andrew@boldopinion.com Click here to see more articles by this Author